Toledoan to host ‘Secrets Every Man Should Know’ workshopWritten by Sarah Ottney | Managing Editor | firstname.lastname@example.org
Toledo native Sam Mallette III describes his work as similar to “Date Doctor” Alex Hitchens, the character portrayed by Will Smith in “Hitch.”
“I’m like him times 100 — mixed with a little Iyanla Vanzant, Oprah and Bishop T.D. Jakes or Dr. Phil,” Mallette said, laughing. “What I do really stems from what Will was doing in the movie. I’ve just really enhanced it.”
The self-taught relationship expert will offer a new workshop, “Secrets Every Man Should Know to Make His Woman Happy,” at 7 p.m. Oct. 4 at Maumee Indoor Theatre, 601 Conant St.
“I’m going to tell men in man language what women are trying to tell them in women language and it’s not working,” Mallette said.
Cost is $15 for one ticket or $25 for two tickets. Tickets are available at the offices of The Toledo Journal, 3021 Douglas Road; Promises Hair & Nail Salon, 3205 W. Central Ave.; or Powell’s Beauty Supply, 901 Nebraska Ave. Part of the proceeds will go to Project Genesis, a program of Family Service of Northwest Ohio, to fight domestic violence.
The workshop is open to all.
“The title of this one insinuates it’s just for men, but it’s for men and women,” Mallette said. “And it’s not just for couples either. A lot of this stuff will work in basic relationships with family or friends.”
Mallette regularly advises men to be students of their significant other.
“I’m a huge advocate of men studying who their woman is. You should be doing that all the time,” Mallette said. “You can’t be lazy to be in a relationship. You’ve got to want to master her. It’s fun. It’s just work.”
A woman needs to be seduced emotionally, intellectually, sexually, spiritually and physically, he said.
“If you can tap into all five of those areas at the same time, where you are feeding her mind, her emotions, all that, you become the greatest super-being that she’s ever met and vice versa,” he said, laughing. “It’s not as hard as people think.”
At the workshop, Mallette will address what he calls the Triple A’s.
“The most basic things you have to do for a woman on a daily basis — and it takes maybe one to four minutes per day — is you have to give her in some way affection, attention or appreciation,” Mallette said. “You don’t have to be doing all three, but you have to be doing at least one of those per day.”
The tendency of women to talk more than men will also be addressed.
“Most men, when women be blah blah blah, think, ‘Why is she just talking? Will you please shut up?’” Mallette said. “I’m going to explain to men how when a woman is talking to you she’s trying to connect with you and what that connection and that intimacy means.”
Mallette’s path to relationship expert was forged in an unlikely place — divorce. He and his wife of seven years split in 2003.
“Divorce is pretty rare in my family. There’s very few of us that ever got divorced. My parents just celebrated their 46th anniversary,” Mallette said. “Normally when people go through dramatic things like that they either say, ‘Well, I hate all women,’ or ‘Let me find out what really happened.’”
Mallette chose the second route.
“At first I had to do my own introspection. I examined me, I examined what she did, what I did and then what we did together, bad, good and ugly,” he said. “That’s what started me on this journey.”
Mallette followed with observation of and research on human behavior, both of which led to the development of the set of philosophies he now refers to as Samology. He calls his workshops the Sambition series.
The Oct. 4 presentation will be the third talk in the series. The first addressed why men cheat and the second was “Secrets Every Woman Should Know About Men.” During the second seminar, Mallette highlighted respect, ego and the visual.
“I don’t think women really understand how far that goes in a man,” Mallette said. “No. 4 would be sex.”
He said all his presentations are humorous and interactive.
“I like for my audience to talk back. Sometimes I might point you out. We have a lot of fun,” Mallette said. “I love to give people theory and then give them practical application. When you get up from the seat, you can immediately put this into practice.”
Mallette said he hopes attendees leave more hopeful than they arrive.
“Divorce rates are so high and women don’t believe there are good men out there and men don’t believe there are good women,” he said. “I want them to realize there is hope and then once you get it, you can really make it work and have fun doing it.”
Mallette, a graduate of Macomber-Whitney Vocational Technical High School, will soon debut a column for Toledo Free Press. He has a bachelor’s degree international business and business management from Lourdes College, a master’s in higher education administration from the University of Toledo and a doctorate of divinity from the School of Bible Theology Seminary and University in California.
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