Bosley: DivorceCare support group can helpWritten by Guest Author | | GuestAuthor@toledofreepress.com
If you are separated, divorced, in the process of divorcing or even thinking about separating, I recommend the 13-week DivorceCare program.
I attended DivorceCare last fall as a woman who had filed for dissolution/divorce but was still in the legal process. If there’s any such thing as a “typical” divorce, mine wasn’t it, and I was seeking a forum to explore what God’s attitude toward my decisions might be. In the DivorceCare group, I found myself not only invited and challenged to do just that, but I found empathetic people — especially the two leaders of the course, one a man and one a woman — around a large table with people also at a variety of stages of their own divorcing process and with experiences to share.
Each class includes watching and discussing a video segment related to the next week’s chapter, reflections and video-presenters’ points of view. There are ample opportunities to talk as much or little as each participant is comfortable with about his or her own situation or the week’s outside-of-class notes.
The class opens and closes with prayer, and the course is, at its foundations, scripturally-based. Participants are offered the opportunity to explore, in-depth, their own relationship with God especially related to the parts of the divorce process that are most common to men and women going through it. Nowhere in the course did I feel I was being “talked out of” my decision — my need — to divorce, and neither did I feel at any point that my circumstances were being questioned or judged by participants or leaders. I felt acceptance and support.
Some readers may also wish to know that, in terms of individual faith positions, I know I would have been comfortable in this class even if I was not Christian.
Additionally, I’d like to talk about how important the DivorceCare for Kids group was to my 7-year-old daughter, meeting in another room the same evening as my class, and how wonderful for me to know she was involved in her own work/play as I was in the adult class. She made friends and also found caring, loving adults surrounding her, and for her, it reinforced God’s love for her as well as her parents’ love for her in the midst of confusing changes in her family situation. She wants to attend again.
The members of the class I was part of got to know each other quite well through the two and a half months we met together, and the network we made carried prayers for one another not just week-to-week, but even beyond the duration of the class. Two of those involved have had lifelong impact and have become dear friends with whom I stay connected. This is just a side blessing to come out of my group, but is invaluable on top of the deep comfort I took from the class regarding my relationship with God through and beyond my own divorce.
DivorceCare and Divorce Care for Kids will begin a new session at 6:30 p.m. Sept. 17 at Olivet Lutheran Church, 5840 Monroe St., Sylvania. A free community meal is also offered starting at 5 p.m. for those wishing to participate. For more information please call the church office at 419-882-2077.
Cindy Bosley can be reached at email@example.com.