Strong men admit when they need helpWritten by Tom Richard | | email@example.com
General automotive knowledge comes easily for some men; I am not one of them. In fact, about ten years ago it took my brother and me more than ten minutes to figure out how to pop the hood on a foreign vehicle I was driving.
After looking in all of the normal places for the latch to pop the hood, I began to get frustrated and embarrassed when I wasn’t able to find the right button to push. The more I looked, the more frustrated I became. As time kept passing, my brother reached into the glove compartment and pulled out the instruction manual.
It turns out the button was under the seat staring at us the whole time. Had my brother not grabbed the instruction manual, I may have continued to look for another ten minutes for a simple button.
Most men have trouble admitting that they do not know something, especially when they feel that they should know it instinctively. However, if that same man drops the remote control behind the couch and cannot reach it because the space is too small, he has no qualms or hesitations asking a smaller child to crawl behind the couch to retrieve it.
So why do men hesitate to ask for help in some areas but not others? The answer is different for each individual, but the solution is the same for everybody.
Real strength is demonstrated when we are comfortable accepting help in all areas. Whether at home or in the workplace, every person we are surrounded with has different talents, different skills, and different vantage points. Said more simply, people are different.
These differences allow us to work together to reach a common goal. Resisting help, new information, and alternative paths creates unnecessary obstacles for us and those around us. This resistance creeps up when we feel that a task is easy and when we feel we “should know” the answer.
Ask ten businesspeople if they know what they should be doing differently to grow their business and a majority of them will have an answer for you. Whether it is strengthening their ability to focus on a new business segment, increase their profit margins, or reduce their overhead expenses, the answers are staring them in the face.
Having the answer is one thing, but being able to successfully act upon that answer is something quite different altogether.
When I was trying to figure out how to pop the hood on a foreign automobile, I knew that there was a button around there somewhere, but I did not know specifically where that button was. By refusing to admit that I did not know where to push, I lost time, grew frustrated, and the hood remained closed.
My refusal to seek answers from the instruction manual was partially fueled by my psychological need to do things myself, without help. This feeling helped me feel secure; this feeling did more harm than good.
When we face business challenges, we owe it to our families, our colleagues, and our communities to back away from our false psychological needs to “be right.” The moment we are able to let go of this need, problems get solved and opportunities are seized.
Seeking or accepting help can take on many different forms. Help can often be hiding right in plain sight. Perhaps the solution you seek is sitting inside of a book you keep on your desk that you have been meaning to read; pick up the book and read it. Perhaps somebody in your office keeps suggesting the same thing over and over again; listen.
The bottom line is simple. The feeling of accomplishing your goals with help is a far better feeling than not accomplishing your goals all by yourself.
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