Improving your relationship with the economyWritten by Tom Richard | | firstname.lastname@example.org
“It’s not you, it’s me.” The words have been spoken so often, they’ve become famous (or infamous). The phrase is often used as a way to soften the bad news when breaking up a romantic relationship. But the words are applicable to other types of relationships.
Look at your relationship with the economy. We blame the economy for our moods, our lack of enthusiasm at work and for keeping us from taking that family vacation. No, Mr. Economy, “it’s not you, it’s me.” It’s a sharp but honest statement. This admission can re-ignite our business enthusiasm and suddenly make those vacation plans feasible again.
What about your relationship with your company? When times are tough, we covet greener grass that must exist somewhere. We look at what we’re missing instead of what we have. No, Mr. Employer, “it’s not you, it’s me.” Heeding this truth can once again help us to see that we have things to work with; we have tools and opportunities that, if we actually fought a little, we would be able to utilize.
It’s strange that a simple phrase could have such special powers, but its potency lies in the realizations that necessarily follow. It forces action on anyone who is discontent with a deteriorating situation. Refuse to be a victim of your environment; it’s only a way to make failure comfortable.
But the idea doesn’t need to have such a negative tone. Flip it around; put it in a positive situation. Imagine winning an account others thought was impossible. Taste sweet victory when others lacked the bravado to even make an attempt. “It’s not you, its ME!” is much more refreshing from a positive perspective. You were the one who made the decision to do something, while others dragged their feet; you were the one who saw water, where others saw desert.
We’re talking about personal responsibility, but we’re also talking about a different kind of responsibility. Not the “remember-to-take-out-the-trash” kind of responsibility — the type of responsibility that puts you in control of your own success no matter what.
Every moment of every day, you have a choice to make. You can take what you’re given in life or you can decide to do as much as possible with what is available. Your responsibility is simple: You must make a choice.
It’s quite simple, but difficult. All you need to do is to constantly find the brighter side of the situation, but that is not at all natural. Saying you are going to find the positive side of things is easy; truly believing is an entirely different challenge.
It’s been said that worthwhile accomplishments are never easy, but that hasn’t stopped you before. Thinking positively, feeling grateful and seeing opportunity is no different than any other challenge you’ve pursued. If you’ve tried and found yourself slipping back to the negativity, then you simply haven’t understood the challenge properly.
The challenge is to catch yourself when you slip, redirect your thoughts and stick to it. The trick is to not condemn yourself when you slip. Condemnation and guilt are not positive thoughts. When you catch yourself thinking negatively, forgive yourself, thank yourself for catching it and put a smile back on your face.
Like any relationship, you need to work at it; you cannot give up when times are tough. The more committed you are to your relationships, the better they’ll become.
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Tom Richard is a Toledo-based sales and marketing consultant, keynote speaker and owner of Bolt from the Blue direct response advertising. For more information, visit www.BoltFromTheBlue.com or call (419) 441-1005.