Because nobody else is going to do it for youWritten by Will Lucas | | firstname.lastname@example.org
Nobody was going to make me successful. If I had a goal, nobody else was going to make it happen. I had to do it. I had to put in the work and the long hours. If anybody was going to drain his own blood, sweat, or tears for me to make it; it was going to be me.
The part that is striking though, is that the lesson wasn’t in me just gaining that knowledge. However, it was living in that realization that was painful. I couldn’t begin to tell you how many millionaires I would be around day in and day out while I was still eating off of the dollar menu. Or, how many Bentley’s or Mercedes Benz’s they drove while I was on the train. All the while I would sit fighting inside myself thinking: “If they’d just give me the opportunity, then I can show them what I’ve got!” or “If they would just helped me out a little, then I could be successful.”
The problem with this line of thinking is that we continue to base our lives on what we expect others to do for us when they’re not required to do so. “If they just did this, then I could…” is how we dictate our lives waiting for someone else to come save us. And oh, what a shame that is. The truth is, nobody is coming to save you. You have incarcerated yourself in your own mind. You did it; you’ve locked yourself up. And you’re waiting for somebody to come and let you out of your mental cell in order for you to do what you need to do to be happy or free.
If you want to be successful at anything, YOU have to do it. It has to be YOUR own priority. Nobody else has the time, the patience, or the responsibility to hold your hand. When you go home tonight and the refrigerator is empty, that is your fault. When you don’t get that report done for work, that is no ones else’s fault but your own. There is always something you can do to change your situation. Always.
If someone has done something, which you feel prohibits you from maneuvering a certain way, then its time to find some encouraging friends or mentors who can help you see opportunities that you’re not seeing, and what may be right in front of you. If your job blocks out so many hours of your day so you feel you can’t be free to start your business, then its past time to change the way you think. Look, its time to get creative people! People are losing jobs everyday waiting for somebody else to do something. How about you do something?
You know what the sad part is? Many people reading this won’t feel like this applies to them when it probably applies to the great majority of us. How many times do we wait for someone else to do something before we believe we can act? How often do you wait for someone to love you more in order for you to love him or her more? How many times have you waited for a loan in order to buy a home, a car, or start a business? I’ll tell you this and I mean it… that person will never love you more, the bank will not “all of a sudden” approve your loan, and things will not change without you first doing something differently.
When you begin to think differently and act differently the help will come, the people will come, and the money will come. That’s just the way it works. When you begin to have more responsibility than you can handle, people, things, and money come in that can take a load off. But here’s where it gets sticky: First, it’s not when you begin to have more responsibility than you think you can handle… it’s when you begin to have more responsibility than you can actually handle. You must become larger than your environment in order to move past it. Secondly, you have to be were your destined to be. If its not your passion, then you can forget it because there is nowhere find the strength to carry you through hard times when your in a place your not supposed to be in.
Guess what. If you never get that loan, if you never get that job, and if you never get that break, its not going to be anyone else’s fault. It’ll be yours. Act. And do it now.
Will “King Keyser” Lucas is president of BELIEVE1.org.